Thursday, March 7, 2013
Little Life Lesson: Words
I was angry, hurt, annoyed, bitter, etc. etc.
But I was wrong.
There are countless times that this verse rushes to my head in the midst of a talk amongst girlfriends. Because frankly, you and I both know how us women folk are. We think it's "okay" to vent. "okay" to talk about the nitty gritty of someone else's life. (I'm reminding myself of this truth as I type this. I constantly have to check myself.)
But something I learned from my sweet mom, sitting at the kitchen table a few years back as I was just entering my 20's was this: "where there are many words, sin is not absent."
She kindly said to me, "Kimber, I don't need to know the details. I don't need to know why, or how, or when."
This was so foreign to me, because I would crave details. I mean I want to know what my husband eats for lunch and how many bites he took... for crying out loud. And you want me to hold my tongue and not say anything?! WHAT?!
When a girlfriend wants to talk about another dear friend? walk away, change the subject, hold my tongue.
Many words in a conversation leaves room for the enemy to come in and create a gossiping environment. We say things we never should have said.. and then later that day or night, we look back and regret not biting our tongue in the midst of conversation. It's so easy for us girls to jump off the gossip cliff and fall. It gets out of hand, fast. I know from first hand experience. I wish I didn't. But I do, and I only end up hurting myself and others.
I learned this lesson the hard way. But it was a valuable one! I want to be a better wife, mother, daughter and friend and I can start by controlling the small little muscle in my mouth. A small muscle that can also wreak havoc and "kill" someone or myself if I'm not carefully guiding it.
Today I'm linking up with my beautiful friends Lindsay Dryer & Amy Reed who I met through The Influence Network. This is week ONE of our Thursday series, "Little Life Lessons". Please join us! We'd love to have you! You can head on over to either one of their blogs to link-up and share your lesson.